Meet Nicola...
I’m a psychologist, wellbeing and relationship expert, ex-bulimic, ex-chronic anxiety sufferer, author, writer, poet, pan, poly, Mum of three children, one dog and two cats - all of whom their Dad and I are raising and unschooling at our home near Sandwich, East Kent, UK.
Even as a very young girl I knew I wanted to understand and help people, and I have always been deeply curious about how the mind works, the keys to mental health, and how to create and maintain healthy, healing relationships.
I was naturally drawn to study Psychology and Counselling, and looking back, I can see that my long academic career and multifarious therapeutic trainings was, in part, a continual search to find more satisfying answers.
But it wasn’t until six years ago when I stumbled across a completely new (to me) understanding of how human beings create their experience (The Three Principles) that I felt truly excited.
“Admitting ‘I don’t know’ (what I want/what to do next/who I am/how to help myself) is terrifying to the ego but a panacea to the soul. We finally allow ourselves to open to our unique path and be receptive to hearing the next right step in that direction.”
— Dr. Nicola Farr
I realised that the disconcerting feeling something was missing – that I’d had from every degree and training and course – was spot on! I had been right to query why the theories didn’t seem to help or apply to everyone, or why certain techniques helped a lot…until they inexplicably just didn’t.
I came to see that there is a very much more simplified way of understanding who we are and where our experience comes from; a way that beautifully blends the psychological, spiritual and practical aspects of our humanness in a manner that rarely fails to deeply resonate. It has impacted my life at all levels, and has totally changed, for the better, the way I support and help my clients.
I believe that love is who we are, what we’re here to do and one of the most nourishing mediums for healing and growth. To intimately connect to ourselves and others is a human need that often isn’t given as much credence as it deserves. I am passionate about helping you transform your relationship first and foremost with yourself, and then from this place finding ways to navigate more peacefully with the key connections in your life, whether that’s your spouse, partners, children, family of origin or friends.
It has always felt to me to be a huge privilege to be in this field, and despite significant evolutions over the years in terms of how I work and show up, this 100% remains the case. Being in session and co-creating with my clients truly never feels like ‘work’ - and in fact, there are times it borders on the magical and we touch a space of oneness and connectedness that is utterly beyond words.